Necessary Evil: something unpleasant that must be accepted to achieve a particular result.
A while ago, I wrote a blog post about giving advice and how a person in the middle of their mess is not listening. Most of the time, they know exactly what they need to do but they know it's unpleasant. It could be leaving a toxic relationship or setting boundaries. Beyond discomfort, some have this irrational fear that they will not survive the break. There are a few necessary evils in regards to letting go and the healing process.
The void will be there, you will miss the person you let go of, it is perfectly normal human behavior. Do not beat yourself up about it.
Letting go is hard, point blank period.
You will be on a rollercoaster of mixed emotions, peaks, and valleys until you close the chapter in your life.
You will have to learn to heal WITHOUT the person that hurt you, it may take limiting access to yourself which can sometimes hurt you more than anything.
People will try to guilt-trip you about the boundaries that you are setting and you will need to stand firm.
People you thought were close to you will be uncomfortable with the transformation happening, do not be shocked.
You will have to look yourself in the mirror and fight your own demons.
Tears, pain, distress, and anxiety will happen but they will not last.
You must understand that you can still be grieving a situation for months or even years.
It may feel like this will result in death, it will not.
Tune in next Wednesday for a new Vision Board Episode on Necessary Evils.
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